For the lowdown on the power of sexual energy, holistic sex and relationship coach Kim Anami is the go-to guru of getting down.
On a recent episode of “The Modern Alchemist” podcast, host Loren Trlin spoke with Anami about the power of sexual energy. Anami is a renowned sex expert whose wisdom about intimacy, physicality, and relationships stems from decades of philosophical study and personal experience. She hosts numerous online salons about sexual education, including How To Be a Well-F–ked Woman and Sexual Mastery for Men.
According to Anami, the potential of sexual energy is always there; the key is learning how to use it. “If we’re not creating babies with that energy, then we can learn how to consciously tune in to it, channel it, harvest it, and then take it out into the world.” If people can learn how to think about sex and sexuality differently, Anami says they often start seeing the world differently — which includes caring less about what people think of them. “It’s one of the hallmarks of really embracing this part of your nature.”
Anami also points out the physical and psychological benefits of orgasms. “It’s a massive, massive, remedy for so many things in a person’s life,” she says. For people working in creative fields who might suffer from blockages throughout the day, Anami recommends orgasmic release as the fix that’s needed to get, er, the juices flowing again. “Suddenly I’ve got this rush of inspiration flowing through me, feel very connected to the muse.”
Anami frequently asserts that she doesn’t believe in “can’t.” Although Western medicine tends to blame sexual deficiencies on physical shortcomings, she says they more often result from mental blockages, which people can overcome with coaching and practice. If people can work through the taboos they’ve inherited, they can start having more healthy sex — which can do wonders for other parts of their life. “The more that you’re having sex, the more you’re wearing that life force energy of radiance and rejuvenation,” Anami avows.
During the podcast, Anami also talks about how the defining feature of good sex and masturbation is their rejuvenating qualities. She’s a big proponent of building relationships that allow for more open and intense sexual experiences. In a culture that promotes casual sex, she believes practicing emotional commitment can lead to better sex between partners.
But she also counsels sexual fulfillment doesn’t have to come from a relationship; it’s something she encourages people to practice on their own. “Some of [the] most well-f–ked periods in my life have been when I’ve been single,” Anami shares. “I was really committed to nurturing that central relationship with myself and consciously harnessing my sexual energy and channeling it out into the world.”
Whether partaking in partner sex or solo sex, Anami encourages her students and followers to practice living with an attitude of abundance to attract more of the things they want and value. With her teaching, she’s doing just that: “I guess for me abundance is freedom, freedom to do whatever I want to do and have a dream of something I want to do and just enact that in my life. Every day I feel like my heart is full and I have the ability to give back,” she says.
“Abundance to me is being able to give to the world and share my gifts to the world.”
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